What Do YOU Want in a Man?
by onyinyechio
Someone asked me this question few days ago and it’s been on my mind. Desperately on my mind. I’m going to describe him here and please!!!! this is MY preference, so if this gentleman is not for you, no problem.
I want to be floored.
I want to look at him and think: “where did you come from? How? who? when? WOW. You are so bloody smart.”
Yes, smart turns me on.
I want a man that can teach me with wisdom. Not tell me what to do but rather coach me. He knows when to push, when to stop. When to carry me, when to let me fall. And when I fall, knows not to say I told you so, but rather, I love you and it’ll be okay.
I want a man that is solution oriented but knows when to just stop and console me.
I want a man I can look up to.
I want a man that loves and fears God. Not that church-goer type of fear but that intimate relationship with Jesus type. He calls Jesus his roll-dawg like I do and depends on him completely. He understands the struggle of being young and loving God and blends the two effortlessly. A man that can pastor me.
I want a man with ambition. He’s gotta be about the hustle. He doesn’t have to have money right now but he has to have the potential to make it. Because I really really really like shoes.
I want a man that isn’t afraid of my dreams. And notices when I’m not following them. We all get comfortable or discouraged and we stop pushing but I want a man that won’t let me stop. A man that wants me blow as much as I want to and won’t let me relax until I do.
I want a man that understands that I think deeply. And because I think deeply, I feel deeply. And because I feel deeply, I constantly have my guard up and pretend like I’m okay when I’m not. He must know how to navigate that. He must know that my brain connects series’ of events and is triggered by the “randomest” things and there’s no way he could even see the beginning or understand how. AND THAT IS OKAY. Because he will know how to love me OUT of my personal deep thoughts and INTO deep thoughts WITH him.
I want a man that gets MY humor. Not a silly/funny guy, there are many. Not a man that says I take myself too seriously because I’m aware – thank you very much. I want the guy that gets my humor and can awaken it so that we are constantly laughing together. I find that being silly annoys me. And the random jokey/funny guy irritates me after a while. Understand my sarcasm. Dish it back. We will laugh forever.
There you have it y’all. That’s what I have so far.
Overall though, thinking about this has raised two questions in my mind: what does this man I have outlined want in a woman? and how can I become her?
Read My Mind... Now. 
You just put into words everything I want in a man. Hopefully we both get what we want.
Come Onyinye, this is a long thing. No solid man will have time for all this, unless the man isn’t a man. And these preferences will never work in the real world especially in our generation. If you expect them to work then be ready to remain unmarried.
If there is an individual that exist in your life, I think u should focus on their positive attributes, forget all these things you are talking about. Unless you are expecting someone to fall from heaven…
Never expect someone to be like you, no individual is the same, “different thumbprints”.
To conclude, if you’ve got someone that has 50 percent of what you’ve mentioned above, you had better grab them and hold them close.
Sorry Ik, I will not settle.
One word: Insatiable
Never settle! Ever.
If I can think, dream and pray for him, he exists.
He’s currently searching for me and he’ll find me.
I love a humourous guy myself but not a jester. Does it hurt that I’m the funny one?
He’s loving, giving, humble and mature.
Too many things in life are managed. Love shouldn’t be one of ’em.
Cheers
No one is telling anyone to manage.
I am a perfectionist and I always strive for perfection, however no matter how much I strive, I never will attain. Even Christ wasn’t perfect, there were events in the bible when tables got turned and chairs got thrown away simply because trade was going on in the church, hence Christ was Hot tempered, and as long as we live in human flesh we can never be perfect or satisfied.
And with regards to love, better yet let me be precise, regarding marriage, don’t expect to get what you always want. What will make a marriage last is the ability to embrace the individuals’ weakness (settling for less as you call it).
If you say you will never settle, then you better wake up and realize where you are. Earth is chaos and earth is also peace, for the latter to occur the former must exist.
Darkness precedes light.
Maktub.
ONYI (cc) IK;DEB CALETTI QUOTE AND I NOTE,DONT SETTLE FOR 40%50%,OR EVEN80%.A RELATIONSHIP, SHOULDNT BE TOO SMALL OR TOO TIGHT OR EVEN A LITTLE SCRATCHY.IT SHOULDNT TAKE UP SPACE IN UR CLOSET OUT OF GUILTY CONSCIENCE OR CONVENIENCE OR A MOMENT OF DESIRE.IT SHOULD BE PERFECT FOR U,IT SHOULD BE LASTING.WAIT,WAIT,WAIT———WAIT FOR HUNDRED PERCENT,I ENCOURAGE U NOT TO BE MISERABLE FOR UR WHOLE LIFE WITH THE WRONG PARTNER.